I hate that phrase. I tell someone something I’m oh so proud of.. I worked so hard for! I sweated, lost sleep, put friends and family on the back burner to achieve then they say
I’m not surprised
or some version of it.
The fact is,
few of us share accomplishments that we haven’t worked for.
few of us share things that are hum drum …they’re either great or we’re in need of support (with the obvious exception of twitters tweets that say things like “I got a cup of coffee” “hi” etc)
few of us are excited about mediocre or ‘easy’ things.
When we share that we
got an A
passed a class
got a degree
it is usually because we are excited
we did it
we accomplished a hard fought goal.
The other thing:
I knew you could do it.
There have been many times in the last 3 years I’ve heard that and wanted to say :
based on what evidence.
I knew you could get straight A’s (oh yeah, I never did before)
I knew you’d pass this algebra class (oh yeah? I’ve failed it 2 times, got a D the third)
I knew …
None of us know what kind of work another puts into their accomplishments and I guess I feel “I knew …” devalues that work …
I’m happy for you
so proud of you